Heal Pain Naturally

2) Gratitude

When you stop to think about what you are grateful for it becomes easier to “let go”. If you are disappointed things are not going the way you want… stop and pay attention and give gratitude to the things that ARE going the way you want. If you are upset with someone, stop and give gratitude to the things you DO like about the person. Gratitude allows you to “let go” of the negative emotion and change to a very different state of mind. There is always something and someone (usually MANY things and MANY people) to be grateful for. Reminding yourself is an easy way to shift your mood and “let go” of what is bothering you.

3) Give Yourself a Break

Have you done lots of things to achieve a goal or complete something yet are over extending yourself and want for things to move even faster? Lighten up. Sometimes things cannot happen because you have too firm a grip and are not allowing them to happen. Relax, do something else that you LOVE and enjoy and then come back refreshed. I recently needed to do this BIG TIME with my invention. I had been hounding people, beating myself up, blaming others and causing stress to all involved with the biggest receiver of the stress being myself. If you feel you are hitting a brick wall or things are not moving fast enough – it probably means you need to back away and “let go”.

Similarly if you are rehashing a situation in your head — this usually will not get you anywhere. Conversations, arguments, break ups…. these things all need some time away without the emotions involved for you to get a fresh outlook on them. When emotions are fresh your “Pain Body” is involved and reacting from such a place will cause more damage than good. Do yourself a favor and give yourself a break to “let go” of the situation causing the pain and move onto something positive.

4) Forgiveness (Ho’oponopono)

Forgiveness is so important to healing that it is the number one part of my “Paging Me System” (that I highlighted on Alex Blackwell’s blog “The Next 45 Years” and write about in detail in my ebook). When you hold onto anger and don’t let it go you are harming yourself. Haven’t you suffered enough with whatever has happened to you?

My favorite means of forgiveness is the method of Ho’oponopono. These phrases when said to yourself (about yourself and about others) are freeing and it does not take long at all. Aaron Potts of Today is That Day has a brilliant article on Ho’oponopono. Dr. Joe Vitale (Who was in “The Secret“) has a book on it called, “Zero Limits: The Secret Hawaiian System for Wealth, Health, Peace and More“. Yes, it seemed a bit hokey to me as well but after doing it and talking to many people who have tried it — all have had the same amazing results. It is saying a few simple phrases repeatedly and thinking about the person the forgiveness is intended for whole heartedly when you say them. Since self-love is a “biggie” for most people I highly recommend starting with forgiving yourself. I find the best thing is to start with 5 minutes to myself and then 5 minutes for another person…. 10 minutes and I feel totally different than when I started. 5 Simple Sentences:
I Love you, I Am So Sorry, Please Forgive Me, Thank you, How Can I Help you?

This helped me last week tremendously when I was placing blame on someone. A wise friend Kate Strong gave me wonderful advice and told me to do Ho’oponopono for the person I was blaming. It helped me go into the next meeting coming from a very different place. It was a reminder of something I THOUGHT I had learned a year ago in a similar situation…. People FEEL your energy in conversations and dealings no matter what your words are saying. If you go into that meeting/situation having forgiven and given a blessing to someone — you WILL have a much different experience. Let go of all previous experiences and feel the “Power of Now” as Mr. Tolle would say…. and experience the difference for yourself.

5) Surrender it to God, the Universe or a Higher Power

God, grant me serenity

to accept the things I cannot change,

courage to change the things I can