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What do you expect to happen as you wake up in the morning? Are you expecting pain? Are you expecting traffic? Do you expect someone will tick you off (spouse, kids, office mates, all of the above)? OR Do you start your day expecting miracles, goodness, wellness and abundance? The messages you send yourself ESPECIALLY those in the morning as you are in the half awake state are SO important to how you day will go. Here are some ways to expect GOODNESS and MIRACLES in your day and tools to help you shift your attention to CREATE these things in your life.
My Story
As my regular readers know I was very ill for over six years. Going to doctors and getting tests back saying “how sick I was” accompanied with severe chronic pain did not make me wake up cheery in the morning! Yeah, I AM putting it mildly. My first thoughts would go to “WHAT hurts today?”, “What WON’T I be able to do today?, “Will I vomit from pain today, pass out today from pain or BOTH?”, “I probably won’t be able to drive my children anywhere today because of the pain and will have to get someone else to take them or have to take tons of pain meds to get out of bed”. Not exactly inspiring messages my conscious mind was implanting AND BOY was my subsconcious listening. I realized when I knew I wanted to use my mind to heal myself that I had to shift my attention (as I go into in the “Paging Me System“) from what was bad to what was good. There were times when only my pinky felt good and the rest of me felt like I had the worst case of the flu and ALL my attention went to my pinky. I PAID gratitude for that one part. I concentrated on that one part until nothing else existed and reasoned with my mind that if one part felt good — I was healthy….. I EXPECTED to heal and I did.
When you EXPECT something you are putting your belief behind it.
The definition of Expect is: to look forward to; regard as likely to happen; anticipate the occurrence or the coming of
You can say affirmations ’til you are blue in the face but if you don’t believe them and EXPECT things to happen to you… in reality they likely will not or will take a WHOLE lot longer to manifest. I have come across many ways to EXPECT MIRACLES AND GOODNESS and would like to give you some tools to help you do this:
1) Shift Your Attention to What IS Good and Be Grateful
This is a bit of a 2 parter. As I said above the first part was STOPPING myself (if even for just those first few minutes every day) from becoming overwhelmed by my own pain or by what doctors were repeatedly telling me. I was SHIFTING my conscious mind to ANYTHING that was good. I was FEELING grateful for that part that didn’t hurt and letting that feeling overcome me to the point where I could imagine what it would be like for my whole body to feel no pain (like my pinky) and shift into the gratitude for how that would feel.
When you are lying there in your half awake state in the morning and you hear yourself sleepily say in your head “this day will suck” or “gee I bet Jon at the office will be his usual *&$% today” or “Yuck I will NEVER GET that project done”…. why not stop yourself a second. Turn that statement around. Shift to what IS good at your office or that one time Jon actually seemed nice or the time the project went so easily it almost seemed magical. Feel what THAT would feel like and pay gratitude for the thoughts. Feel grateful for just the fact that you woke up in the morning to experience another day before you even get out of bed. Expect unexpected goodness to come to you that day. Don’t cling to WHAT exactly it is – just KNOW that with you in a better space you are attracting better things to you.
We all know the scenario where you get out of bed and hit your toe, or find cat vomit or find something else that “MAKES YOU KNOW IT IS ONE OF THOSE DAYS”. Only YOU can say “aw, that kinda sucked — oh well” or laugh it off and MOVE past it! The more you say bad things are going to happen… guess what? THAT is what will happen and THAT is where your awareness will go to during the day.
2) Pick One Word
I LOVED Lance from “A Jungle of Life’s” New Year post, “And the word is…“. It is getting a lot of well deserved attention and has made many of us think. I already wrote about not liking resolutions and preferring intentions. I said what my main goal for 2009 is and WOW if I could tell you ALL the miracles that I experienced in the past 72 hours alone you might not even believe me! What if you had to pick ONE WORD for what you wanted your year to look like? ONE word for where you wanted to grow the most? ONE word that when you look back on 2009 you say “Yeah, that was my year of ______”. I highly recommend reading Lance’s post not only to read his great content but to see all the wonderful comments — last look there were 107 of them!).
By picking one word you are simplifying your wants and always have that one word to remind yourself to center. My word is abundance and I want it in all areas; financial, love, family time, etc. 2007 was “healing” and 2008 was “spirituality” and boy did those words sum those years UP! As another exercise, think about what you would follow the word EXPECT with… what do you Expect for 2009? Love, abundance, or pain and lack? Expectation is a powerful emotion and one not to be overlooked. Why not go to Lance’s post and tell him what your word for 2009 will be!
3) Ask for Help
Ahh my Achilles heal! Tim Brownson from “A Daring Adventure” wrote a brilliant post called “I Need Your Help” recently. He made me stop and think about this AGAIN and understand that everyone who has “made it” asked for help. Ah that recovering perfectionist in me who always wants control and is used to being the comforter NOT the “comforted” still has a ways to go. 15 months ago I wrote a post for a “Think Differently Challenge Meme that I chose to think differently about Asking for Help” Well… ummm…. maybe I have gotten a LITTLE better but this is still an area where I can improve. If you ask for help you can EXPECT goodness to happen because there is more than just you working towards a result.
I set out this year saying I KNOW there are similarly minded people in my town and I want to meet them so we can collaborate and HELP EACH OTHER. Well guess what? I met an amazing NLP/Hypnotist (and so much more) Amy Park, that I WILL be working with and there is no DOUBT in my mind we will help each other. I EXPECT it and I know together we are even more powerful and will reach out and help many more people than if we were on our own.
Who could you ask for help with something? I know whenever I am asked for help it is natural for me to say “yes” and deeply want to help in any way I can. If you had help with one aspect of your life whether it be swapping baby sitting with a neighbor so you can both take turns getting out for a “date night” with a spouse or something business oriented…. wouldn’t you EXPECT that area of your life to be better as a result? For many more excellent reasons WHY asking for help is so important, please read Tim Brownson’s article “I Need Your Help“.
4) AWARENESS
WHERE is your awareness? It has been life changing for me to realize that you simply do not even SEE what you are not looking for. If you are EXPECTING bad things to happen or to NOTICE those things… THAT is what you are going to get. I did a post a year ago “An Awareness test – Where is Your Awareness?” that is a perfect example of this. Here is the short video to quickly test your awareness:
You know WHAT I find so humorous about this all? I have heard the phrase “Expect Miracles” for the last 2 years and never really HEARD it. How’s THAT for where my awareness was? I even remember it from the first time I saw “The Secret” which is where my healing journey began.
It was talking with Amy Park that REALLY put this into perspective for me this week. Funny, how you can hear or see something thousands of times but it is that ONE time someone else says it or you are “READY to hear it” that is finally sinks in. This has been my mantra and state of being for the last 3 days and BOY DOES IT WORK! Thank you Amy!
Stop and ask yourself WHAT you are expecting to happen next a few times a day and make sure your awareness is in a positive space.
5) Limit Media Influences
This is another point in my Paging Me System and that I have written about in “Is the Media You are Surrounding Yourself with Helpful or Harmful to you?” that is SO VERY IMPORTANT. If you are sitting around reading the newspapers and watching the news every day you are probably NOT expecting miracles. You might be expecting more misery. The mainstream media is fear based and gets your attention with its horrendous headlines. PLEASE, I know people want to be informed but being over informed is doing no one any good except helping the media to sell more newspapers or ads during the news. Get headlines if you must and MOVE ON. Visit my post listed above about Media for alternatives to the regular news like “Happy News“. There is ALWAYS good stuff going on as well as people doing inspirational things. THAT is apparently not what the media believes sells newspapers so they do not focus on those stories.
Read inspirational material, convince yourself miracles DO happen every day, why NOT to you? Surround yourself with people that talk about the GOOD things going on and don’t spend the day saying “how BAD it all is”.
6) Self Love
This is HUGE because if you do not like yourself you will not EXPECT good thing to happen to you or will not feel like you “deserve them”. Everyone is worthy of love and it HAS to begin with you loving and respecting yourself. How you treat and see yourself is how people get their “cues” on how to treat you. I have written about this in “You Have to Love Yourself in Order to Heal” and “How to Love Spending Time by Yourself“. My post, “5 Writing Exercises to Help Heal Pain” also has a few exercises to get you into this important space of self-love.
No matter what you are “beating yourself up about” in your own mind….there is a MUCH better space to be in. You need to be able to get to that place where you KNOW things you love about yourself and go gently with your own feelings. Are you treating yourself as kindly as you would treat a loved one or a stranger? Often times we are hardest on ourselves and this gets us into low emotional states. By concentrating on your good points (we ALL have them — TONS of them) you are building your self confidence and self worth. When you KNOW deep inside that you love yourself is it much easier to EXPECT Miracles because your conscious and subconscious mind KNOW you deserve them! We all do! Write down 5 things you love about yourself and feel the gratitude for those things that make you YOU – Tell yourself you deserve and EXPECT miracles!
I feel if you use these six steps you can put yourself into that feeling state of EXPECTING miracles and goodness. By being in that state you WILL attract miracles and goodness to you. Read Lance’s and Tim’s posts. THOSE posts and the previous ones from Heal Pain Naturally that I listed will put you in the right space of EXPECTING goodness. Do the exercises I listed. Only YOU can convince yourself MIRACLES HAPPEN EVERY DAY AND EXPECT THEM for Yourself! I’d love to hear what you think about EXPECTING and please share miracles that have occurred in your life as a results of EXPECTING GOODNESS.
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“This is HUGE because if you do not like yourself you will not EXPECT good thing to happen to you or will not feel like you “deserve them”.
This statement is very true. You become what you think you want to be.
Thanks very much for the link Jenny.
You’re absolutely right in saying our expectation is so important. We see what we’re expecting to see the majority of the time and most people don’t ‘get that’
BTW, there was a great reply by a neuroscientist to my post that you linked to. He said that it is a scientific fact and that human being are wired up to want to help each other. That makes me feel goo, I don’t know about you!
Tim Brownsons last blog post..I Need Your Help
Today, I expected everything to be just as it is, no more and no less. Appearances are losing meaning in favor of something else. Mistaken frameworks of ordinary perception are breaking down. It is possible to see through assumptions about existence, reasons for living, and begin to discern the point of it all. You can sit beside someone who is gradually going though Elizabeth Kubler Ross’ five stages of grief and realize everyone experiences this on deep, soul-levels;
Denial (this isn’t happening to me!)
Anger (why is this happening to me?)
Bargaining (I promise to be a better person if…)
Depression (I don’t care anymore)
Acceptance (I’m ready for whatever comes)
If you know someone who is experiencing illness, that person is also shifting a sense of health and well-being. In fact, we are all doing this in our own personal way, on levels of awarenss as we grow or evolve toward greater self-acceptance.
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Hey Tim,
You are QUITE welcome for the link – my pleasure — your posts have done so much to make me look at laugh, think and laugh out loud.
Thank you for sharing the comment from the neuro-scientist. I believe that as well and yet STILL sometimes have trouble taking that next step and ASKING for help. Just habit as I am used to being the one helping but a habit I am “working on” changing.
I think more and more people are beginning to “wake up” and realize they are more than skin and bones and the way they perceive reality does affect it – but there are some people just not ready… With that acknowledgment comes the realization that we have contributed to where we are now and some feel that is a personal attack rather than seeing it an opportunity to grow from here on.
Thanks Tim! Always wonderful to have you leave a comment!
Love,
Jenny
Hi Liara,
I believe that self acceptance is the key and that is a place where many pause. When I realized the only person expecting me to be perfect was me there was a wonderful freedom in that. Now I love even what others might perceive as less than perfect qualities. Everything in me combines to make me “me”. I am nurturing my gifts and learning every day. I expect goodness and miracles because that is what life is to me.
There is beauty in knowing everything “is as it is supposed to be”. But I find that people are often in a state of expectation and do not even realize it. Unfortunately most of what they expect are the negatives and not the positive and absolute perfection of the Universe.
I love Kubler Ross’ work and find it applies to way more than her work with the dying as well.
Thanks Liara! Love your comments and am off to check out your latest post. xo
Jenny
Hi Jenny,
There is just so much good here, Jenny! Let me just start by saying – wow! – on your last 72 hours!! That is so awesome for you!
And this all just goes to show how important our thoughts are in our life. We do often get what we expect. What we think becomes reality…
Today, I watch very little television, including the news. Being a bit oblivious to all the “bad” news that I’d normally hear about – well, it’s been a very good thing for me. I used to watch the news very often. And what kind of attitude did it leave me with? One of – the world is full of problems, our neighborhood streets are dangerous, we can’t trust anybody. And while some caution is still prudent, I see the world through a much different lens now – one of abundance (hey, I just had to find a way to use your word!) and love. It’s there – just down the street, in the neighboring cities, and all across our nation and world. And I see that very clearly now. And what a better way to view our planet…
Tim’s article on asking for help…I really should get over and read it! This is a hard one for me, too. Way harder than it should be… And the thing is, I know how beneficial help can be…I’ve seen it in action…yet, I still struggle in asking for it, so this will be good.
Jenny, thank you for the link here today, and for you really being a wonderful cheering section for this idea of “one word”. It’s people like you who are really helping to spread this idea, one I think is a great way to focus during the year.
So, I leave here today (I don’t want to leave! You’ve created a place that just is filled with so much good!) reminded of of so much, but especially about the importance of taking care of “me” – and the many ways I can do that. Jenny, thank you for all of this. You share so openly, and freely…
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Hi Lance,
Thank you so so much for your kind words and support! They always make me smile and it is wonderful to hear your thoughts on my posts.
The link to you was my pleasure and I really believe it could help MANY people to just concentrate on that ONE WORD. EXPECT is another good word for the year as it causes you to STOP and really consider WHAT it is you expect on a daily basis.
Yes, Tim’s post is a good one and especially handy for those like you and I who have a difficult time asking for help. Tim makes me laugh so much and has a way of letting me not take myself too seriously which is a VERY good thing!
I love sharing on here. I have always loved to write and never did I imagine being so open with so many people. But I know as humans we have so many similar thoughts and feelings but don’t come forward and talk about them. Somehow many of us feel like “we’re the only one” that feels as we do and I feel it is important to concentrate on things we all have in common. I love learning from others and love that people can learn from me.
I am happy to hear avoiding the news helped you. I know many who cling to every word of it and I see what it does to their outlook on life in general. Congrats — I know it can be a hard habit to break but one very worth the effort!
I am so very grateful for your friendship Lance. Thank YOU!!!!!
Love,
Jenny
Love,
Jenny
I think you are right on about the morning being an especially critical time to expect good things for the day. Personally, I have the most energy in the morning and it seems that I just don’t have to try as hard to do things then. So, setting expectations in the morning would probably make them even more powerful.
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Thank you Amanda and welcome! There IS something about the energy in the morning and I think while we are halfway drifting our subconscious is a bit engaged as well. Any positive messages sent our subsconscious’s way can’t hurt!
I think every day when we wake we have a good possibility of GREATLY directing whether we will have a “good” or “bad” day.
Thanks for taking the time to comment! I loved your latest post!
Gratefully,
Jenny
Hi Jenny – I was amused reading the first part of this post (not at your illness, but at your message), because last night we watched The Secret for the first time – we must be about the last people in the universe to watch it!
I thought it would be a trashy take on the principles, but we both loved it – it’s an awesome message – the one about how we create our reality with our daily thought and feelings. I’ve been working with this message for years, but feel a renewed enthusiasm for embracing it even more.
I thought Lance’s post was great, too – my word is “focus”.
Thanks for sharing your story, Jenny
love from Rob
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The word “expectation” is not a good word in my book — when I expect something, I usually expect something very specific, and I get very disappointed when it doesn’t materialize.
It’s better when your expectation is more open and hopeful, like yours.
ari
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My word for 2009 is perseverance, but I like focus too (Robin’s word), and “abundance.” I can’t seem to make up my mind here. Maybe focus is all I need first and foremost. Which means getting unplugged from the social media – this is one solid tip you’ve got for us – so we can attend to the more essential task at hand.
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Hey Robin,
The Secret had REALLY great messages in it that changed my life so I will always be grateful for it. Yes, it was very much about the marketing and wealth aspect was concentrated on more than the other aspects but it was valuable and important concepts to the attention of millions (including me). Like any teacher, you might not agree with 100% of it – but you pick out WHAT IS important and resonates and go from there. After seeing it I read so many books on mind/body and law of attraction that I felt painted a clearer picture but I might not have read them for years or ever if I hadn’t seen The Secret when I did!
Focus is a GREAT word and I imagine calling your attention back to that world will have tremendous effect on your year!
Thanks Robin!
Love,
Jenny
Hey Ari,
Ahh the trick is “expectation without clinging to a specific result”. It is the belief that things will in fact get better in the area you want (You are EXPECTING them to) but that God/The Universe knows better than you do WHAT that means and how it is best to manifest. A surrendering that is freeing because you KNOW you are going to get what you asked for even if it might be in a different package…. even if something seemingly “bad” happens or you face a set-back — the FAITH and EXPECTATION that it is all going the way it needs to in order for growth to occur. “The Universe works in mysterious ways” and I am finding in my life the more I “let go” and just KNOW goodness is coming without setting all these SPECIFIC rules — the more I am receiving.
Thanks Ari for your comments!
I wish you all the best for 2009!
Love,
Jenny
Hi Jan,
All 3 are good words! It is finding the one that resonates the most with you. When it is Dec 31, 2009 which area do you want to say you have grown the most in? That was how I picked my word.
Yeah social media kinda sucks… my unplugging from it gave me lots of extra time to think about my OWN life. When I see how upset people let themselves get about issues but all they do is sit around and say how upset they are about it — it seems like it just contributes to the bad energy and doesn’t move anything forward. If watching 5 minutes of news propels someone to action to make things better – than by all means those 5 minutes were well spent. I am happy there are more and alternative news resources to find out about inspiring things happening and that is where I try to put my attention. I will get 2 minutes a day of headlines but that is about all I can stomach. Any longer and it will start affecting how I am feeling. I’d rather put my attention into helping others, living up to my own life purpose and to keep on moving forward… when I watched the news I felt STUCK where I was — almost paralyzed by the enormity of the tragedy they presented every day.
Thanks for coming by and for your comments!
Gartefully,
Jenny
Hi Hamdani,
So Sorry I just found your comment stuck in spam. Thank you so much for commenting. I believe we need to feel deserving to receive. Self esteem helps tremendously with that. Developing talents that make YOU uniquely YOU nurture that. We all deserve to be happy and it is in finding the love for ourselves that we can begin to let that happen EVERY day. Thanks and sorry again for delay!
Gratefully,
Jenny
This is my first time here and I first wanted to say thank you for sharing your work with us and second how I related to the part about limiting media influences!
Hi Adam,
Welcome! Thank you for reading. I recently interviewed James Sinclair of the movie “What IF?” (my next post will be the interview). He commented about how media is shifting a bit and we are seeing a few more news shows feature “positive moments”. I will keep hoping it continues to shift in this direction. In the meantime, limiting it is usually a good idea. Thanks for taking the time to comment and say hi!
Gratefully,
Jenny
Hi Jen,
I am so proud of you. You’re doing it, all of it!
Your friend,
Mike
Hi Mike,
Sooo sweet! Thank you! I am very excited by all that is going on as well! You’ve known me since almost the beginning of this wild learning ride! Thanks for your support and encouragement! It is so greatly appreciated. I look forward to us sharing stories of MANY of our successes!
Love,
Jenny
Jenny, as you gather, everyone has not yet reached the same level of awareness. This is why different people find themselves at different stages of self-acceptance. Unwavering, unconditional love is a sign of complete self-acceptance. This is a step on the path to greater self-understanding.
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Hi Liara,
Ahh I don’t even know if I am THERE yet! I still can be very hard on myself sometimes. Yet I can tell now when the negative outlook on something about myself is bubbling and examine that as it is coming up…. it is usually just that old perfectionist quality I am still trying to quiet permanently! I don’t dwell there but do always find it interesting when it surfaces. I love that I am moving forward and the “unconscious” moments become further and further apart and could not ask for anything more than to be where I am RIGHT NOW! Thank you!
Love,
Jenny