When I healed I wrote an ebook in which I features a system that I had created to heal. I coached from “The Paging Me System”. It is based on my belief that we need to “‘awaken” to be able to heal. Now I would like to present this to my readers in a poem form that came to me very quickly.
I would like to highlight that sometimes we must go through some muck of the past in order to move forward with our lives. To some people this is a stopping point. I believe it is VERY important to be able to “Appreciate EVERY Moment — Not Just the Good Ones”. To look back at some of those “hardest” times in our life and pay gratitude to them for the lessons learned. I often say I am grateful for my years of dis-ease and extreme chronic pain. If I had not endured years of illness I would surely not have the passion for healing that I do today.
Some people get “stuck” on my first step “Pardoning” and say there is “no way” they can forgive someone for what they did.
Pardoning is not saying that you agree with whatever was done to you. It IS saying that you are no longer letting it hold you back, you are accepting that it happened and you are CHOOSING to move forward with your life.
Deepak Chopra’s quote (frequently posted by me) helped me the most on this: “You must realize everyone is doing the best they can from their own state of consciousness”. Also self-forgiveness is key! I have written on “Self love” and “self forgiveness” and cannot stress how important these factors are for moving forward with your life.
As my regular readers know I do not frequently share my poetry. It is something I am making myself become more comfortable with.To write this I sat down with the intention “I want to write a poem about my Paging Me System” and 10 minutes later this was born. So excuse the roughness and I hope you enjoy it!
The PAGING ME SYSTEM
The “Paging Me System” is what I coach from
a method of healing adopted by me.
I realized I have not yet clearly defined it on my blog
so let’s begin with the letter P.
P is for Pardoning, yourself and others
a step “difficult” for some two-fold.
You have to fall in love with yourself
AND let go of blame, often deep seeded and OLD.
Cutting the thick ropes
that have kept you anchored in the past
Allows for freedom, power and forward motion
the future is yours at last!
A is for Attention Shifting
from what is bad or hurts to what is right.
Wayne Dyer’s quote “When you change the way you look at things the things you look at change”
can help you to see things in a new light.
If you have a pain that is recurring
one you feel physically or emotionally within
after observing the cause, shift to what parts are painless
Concentrate on letting the positive emotion for that pain free part win.
G is for Gratitude for EVERYTHING
My favorite healing tool of all
because when you stop to FEEL all that is good
you can suddenly appear 10 feet tall!
From the air you breathe, people you love, having clothes and food
you can suddenly realize abundance is all around.
When you stop and really EXPERIENCE this at its deepest level
more goodness is sure to abound.
I is for Influences, keep them positive
from news, movies and books to the friends that you choose.
Remember true all-weather friendships win
Energy vampires suck your energy, too precious for you to lose.
N is for No Negative “Self talk”
Turn it around to say it a positive way.
Even a long wait in the grocery store shifted to positive time for reflection
can change your outlook on the day.
G is for Goal setting which is crucial
if you don’t know where you are going how will you know when you get there?
It is important to set mini goals to guide you
Think of it as climbing stair by stair.
M is for Meditation
which can simply be some quiet time.
A walk through nature, some deep breaths
to soothe the non stop ego-ic mind.
E is for Education
Your mind is YOURS for you to teach.
When you are learning things you are passionate about
the whole world is suddenly within reach.
This is the Paging Me System put simply
these steps are what helped to heal me.
It will be two years in January
I have been pain and pain pill free!
It is therapeutic for me to get my poems out there as I work through my own fears! Thanks for reading and as always I welcome comments (I think) ;-).
If people just practice “gratitude” a lot of the social problem that we faced today will be gone away both at the macro level and at personal level. Personally I think much of today problem exist due to non-gratification or seeking fast gratification over matters in every aspect.
Gratitude indeed did help me a LOT to refocus on WHAT was important. With all the ads saying “GET This” and “you NEED this” some find it easy to concentrate on what they DON’T have. Just being able to wake up in the morning is a gift that I will now never take for granted again.
Thanks for taking the time to comment.
Hi Jenny: Is the PAGING ME system something you created? The explanation you offer in your poem definitely contains the elements that are vital for self-healing. I especially agree with forgiving yourself and others, feeling gratitude, meditating, and focusing your attention on following specific goals you’ve set for yourself.
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I like the poem and think it’s great that you’re stepping out of your comfort zone and sharing your poems.
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Your thoughts always uplift your readers. As you truly love what you do, you naturally spread the joy.
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Jenny, this is just a wonderful poem describing your “Paging Me” system. You have a beautiful way of expressing your words – they come alive with meaning!
I agree also on the importance of gratitude (the first “g”). We have so much to be grateful for – we are truly blessed – even in the midst of any pains we might have. It’s easy to forget this sometimes, especially when we are suffering. But I truly believe what you have written about “feeling” all that is good – and feeling then so much taller. When I really stop to think and appreciate all that I have in my life, I know, without a doubt that I am blessed with much! Anyone who is here, and able to read what you have written, has so much more than many in this world – and is blessed as well.
Jenny, thank you for sharing this poem, your words, and a piece of “you”. I leave here tonight a better person because of what you have shared.
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Jenny, I read the poem and the word awareness came to me. I then scrolled back up thinking that it would be the A. Upon reflection I see that awareness is enhanced throughout your system. Do you take folks through the steps in order?
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Yes, this is something I created during/after my healing process. I looked back at all the steps I had to go through that helped me to heal and the acronym seemed fitting. I had to frequently “page myself” to make sure I was aware of what was going on in my own head. I had gotten into a lot of horrible self-talk and had years of the habit to contend with and I had to learn how to tune it out. I am glad you resonated with some of the steps and thank you so much for commenting!
Thank you. Yes, it is “stepping outside my comfort zone”. I am happy to share it since poetry has always been present and important in my life but at the same time my heart does flutter a bit before, during and after I hit the “publish” button. 😉 Thanks so much for visiting and commenting.
I do LOVE what I do. Thank you for visiting and you kind words. They are GREATLY appreciated.
Wow! Thank you so much! It means a lot to me to hear your kind words. I agree that gratitude is so vital and unfortunately the importance often overlooked. Luckily it is an easy thing to put into practice and when you do truly FEEL it — there is really no other feeling like it. Again Lance, thank you so much and I will reread your comments the next time I am on the fence about pushing that “publish” button on a poem to give me that extra confidence I need! 🙂
It is interesting — I do not necessarily take people through in this exact order but the first few steps usually do come into play right in the beginning. As people do the worksheets — I usually try to start with the ones met with most resistance along with gratitude. MOST often it is pardoning either in the forgiveness of others and also self-forgiveness. I know these were the two areas I had the most “work” in and to do it along with the GOOD FEELINGS gratitude brings made some of “the muck” easier to cope with. I had a LOT of bad feelings toward myself and blame for me being sick for so long and “missing out on” lots of family and friend events as well as (it felt like) my kids every day life. It took me a lot of reflection and tons of H’oponopono to make progress on this area. I realize different clearing and forgiveness modalities ring true for different people so try to incorporate many different resources for people to explore so they find one that resonates with them.
YES — AWARENESS is the goal and what comes when you begin to listen to self talk messages and “Page Yourself” to “wake up” and “pay attention”. I was on auto-pilot for YEARS and just knowing that I COULD wake up made me feel empowered. Thank you for your comment and questions. It feels great to share this and I m so happy and grateful for the response it is getting.
I agree a lot with what Handrani says about gratitude. It’s easy to get wrapped up in ourselves and what is missing from our lives a lot of the time rather then recognizing what we have.
I also love that Deepak quote. I try and remember to use that when somebody cuts me up on the I4 and then gives ME the finger 😉
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Yep, traffic, long lines with people sighing and cursing, unhappy customer support people — THOSE are some of the best times to repeat the quote. What also helps me is actually saying to myself “wow, I hope that person feels better soon”. When people react to the situation at hand it is rarely YOU they are reacting to…. it is something making THEM unhappy and they are just leaping at the first opportunity they get to express their unhappiness. It doesn’t help them and if you react — it helps them even less by getting them MORE riled up. Take the high road and smile, be grateful YOU have decided to laugh instead of curse at the situation and I assure you all parties will be better off for it! I know, sometimes “hard” to do in the moment but totally worth it. Gratitude IS KEY and can be used to shift a mood in 10 seconds — what’s better than that?! 🙂 Thanks so much for commenting!
Hi Jenny – that’s a great poem. I struggled with the pardoning thing for a long time. But as you say, it’s essential to be able to do it, in order to heal.
Thank you for the compliment on the poem — GREATLY appreciated! 🙂 Yes, pardoning can be difficult on both levels — for me I struggled with both but more so forgiveness of myself. I had a &%&%$ of a boyfriend in my life before I met my husband that I had a LOT of forgiveness work to do for but that turned out to be more about “me” as well. Forgiving myself for not trusting my initial intuition which said “RUN!” when I met him. I also actually came up with positives from the experience which helped. It might be the “hardest” step for many but for me it was also the most empowering and freeing. NOT to let the past no matter what it was I had said/done/thought or what someone else had done/said affect WHO I am now in any negative way.
Thanks Cath, I really appreciate you taking the time to comment and thanks again for the wonderful post for Heroes on Napoleon Hill.
Nice post Jenny
The Page Me system is a great reminder to “wake up” as a poem when we slip into unconsciousness. Very creative!
This is a delightful perspectve. Human beings are healing consciously and unconsciously. In order to become a more deliberate creator and self-healer, people benefit from exploring why they feel as they do. It is a very uplifting and also catharic process.
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Hi Jenny – Amazing. Your poem, simply amazing. As I read the words I realized how true your words are. Like you, I believe gratitude for the good and the bad is SO important. When I look back on my life I realize if “A” didn’t happen, then “B” couldn’t have happened. Although most times I don’t understand the “why”, I’ve learned to trust. It’s a good feeling.
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GREAT blog! I just discovered you, and look forward to reading more!
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Jenny, you should really pat yourself on the back. That poem was really good, especially for something you just whipped together. I am also impressed with your ‘paging me’ system. And I’d agree that forgiveness is always the first step, and from my experience I’ve found that the person we often have the most trouble forgiving is ourselves. I also find gratitude the best way to stay present and positive. I try to practise it consciously at least a few times a day. It’s also an important life lesson to pass on and emulate for our children. In a world where people are now more apt to look at what they don’t have, I want bunny to realize he already has so much and the answer for a better life is not “out there”; it;s “in here”.
I am glad you enjoyed my perspective. When I started exploring WHY I felt certain ways about events/people instead of just repeating the messages “they hurt me”, “I don’t like that” the healing began. Sometimes people are afraid of what they will find when they reveal some layers and I will be the first to admit I found some pretty nasty stuff in my subconscious. Finding that “muck” and processing it allowed me to move forward and I am grateful for the experience have continued moving forward since more empowered than ever! Thanks so much for leaving a comment.
Thank you!!! Yes, trusting and knowing I can learn from EVERY experience helps me tremendously. Things can’t always go as we’d like (and wouldn’t life be boring if it WAS that predictable?). To be flexible, try to figure out WHAT you could learn from the situation and have faith is a good way to learn about yourself and life. Thank you — I am grateful you enjoyed my poem and I appreciate you taking the time to leave a comment.
Hi Spooky Girl,
Welcome! I’m always open for questions and comments — hope you enjoy!
Thank you! Coming from one of my favorite writers that is a HUGE compliment! I had my best friend here read your latest last night and she said the same thing I always say after reading you “MORE! – when is her book coming out?!” 🙂
I agree, starting with the children is key. Evelyn at Attraction Mind Map just wrote an awesome post about teaching the law of attraction to kids. I know my children have benefited especially from the Wayne Dyer books “Incredible You” and “Unstoppable Me” and we have built from the lessons in there and the ones I have discovered in my healing. Being the only grandchildren on both sides my kids tend to “accumulate” a lot of STUFF. I find it very important to have them recognize that they are VERY fortunate and am grateful we live in a community with people of all economic levels. I show them videos like the one on Lance’s latest post on “Nick” and reinforce love and tolerance for others while giving them coping skills for difficult times. It’s a journey this motherhood thing and I am so grateful I began studying all of these life lessons when I did so my children could benefit as well. I have definitely seen a change in them as I healed. Thanks Kel for stopping by and commenting!
Lots of love, Thanks everyone for your comments! 🙂
So sorry for delayed comment — for some reason your comment was in the spam filter – glad I checked! Thank you so much for coming by and leaving a comment. I am very happy you liked my poem. Yes – it is meant as a gentle nudge to “wake up!”. Easy points but somehow when we get caught up in our day to day life easy to forget as well. Thanks again!
I re-read this blog post today in the context of choosing to assist someone go through a challenging healing journey. I am reminded that each individual is on an evolving path of self-awareness and just being available and offering love and support is meaningful for what it is.
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Offering love and support is very meaningful. I struggled with feeling everyone should WANT to wake up and be conscious. Some are not ready and they need to be ready to move forward. We have to honor our own and other people’s own paths. It would be pretty boring if we were all the same. I feel this method is a good way to assist a person through the healing journey because if they are ready it leaves room for their own interpretation of it. Thanks Liara – always wonderful to hear from you!