I was told in advance that the Crystal Labyrinth I was going to with my friend Amy was “magical”. Lately I have been told frequently to “look to nature” for answers, clarity and healing and this experience surpassed all my expectations. I had several lessons “shown” to me in the Labyrinth by just being conscious with nature and the one I want to share is one I feel many mothers can benefit from. I look forward to sharing my lesson learned from a mommy bird and her young and ask you to share lessons you have learned from nature.
The above picture is the center of the Crystal Labyrinth. My friend Amy and I had walked for an hour and a half to reach the center. We both walked slowly taking in all the beauty the Labyrinth has to offer. We saw thousands of flowers along the way, heard the free range chickens and birds in the background and I had already received an important life message and was digesting that when I reached the center shortly after Amy. Amy and I talked a little, soaked up some sun and she was on her way back out of the Labyrinth. I knew I wanted to stay there a while longer and think more about what I had experienced so far, ask some more questions, listen for answers and set some more intentions but something happened that made me forget everything for the moment and just “pay attention”.
A Mother Robin swooped into the structure and I heard the baby birds in the nest begin to chirp. I noticed the nest nestled in the top of the gazebo and saw their little mouths open wide as they felt their mother in their vicinity. I watched the mommy robin. She had 3 worms in her mouth and I saw her hop over near her babies and look at them. There were 5 -6 mouths wide open expecting nourishment. She went back over to the center plank and dropped those worms on there and swooped out of the gazebo once again. The babies all closed their mouths and nestled back in close together. Not crying and chirping, just knowing their mom would return. The mom bird went back out to get more food and she came back when she had enough to nourish ALL her children.
As a mom I am often torn between taking time for myself versus time with my children. As my intentions, ambitions and business have grown I am faced with more of those decisions. Many times I have allowed myself to feel guilty for choosing work instead of time with my wonderful children. I have been told recently (and for a while now) that my limits are in the fact that I want to help everyone else before I help myself. I have been told I need to “be more selfish” and TAKE time for myself for personal things and for work. Honestly I HAVE begun taking more time — I take yoga dance and belly dance lessons and am making more and more time for friends and networking in my community. I have found that the more time I DO take the more conscious I am in those moments I am with my children and in everything I do. It truly becomes QUALITY time NOT quantity time.
The mommy robin assessed the situation “Do I have ENOUGH for ALL my children or do I have more work to do?” I watched as she hopped back and forth close to the babies and further away seemingly deciding if there was enough. She left the worms and went back to continue working to get more for her babies. Her babies opened their mouths to receive and were calling out to her when she was close – when she went away they were again silent, patiently waiting for her to return.
I KNOW the value of spending time with my kids when I am nourished, jobs for the moment complete, fully conscious and ready to enjoy my time with them. Yet sometimes I do check on them… half conscious — thoughts on work and they do call me to them but I can tell they can also sense when I am not FULLY THERE. My children are FINE while I am away and they know I will return – the question is “how DO I want to return?”. Do I want to come to them unsure, thinking about work and feeling like I only have half of myself to offer them? Or do I want to carry through on what I need to get done for myself, for work and come to them fully conscious and with my whole self and full nourishment to offer them?
Having been an at home mom for the last ten years it has been about quantity time. My children are respectful, kind, funny, smart and I do attribute that (at least partly) to the love and attention my husband and I have given them. I am lucky to have my mom who can watch the kids sometimes, to have a neighborhood where the kids can safely play with lots of friends and that they have tennis lessons daily to keep them active. As a mom we often feel we NEED to spend all our time with our children but what does that say about how we are caring for ourselves? What example does it set for them if I am half there and wandering back to check email or “work for 5 minutes”? This is something I have been struggling with a while and I am so grateful I got to witness the answer as shown to me by the mommy robin. Yes, nature DOES hold lessons if we are quiet and aware enough to watch and listen.
Do you make sure you are fully present when you are with your children or with your loved ones? Do you listen and watch when you are in nature? What lessons have YOU learned from nature?You know I LOVE comments and sharing! 🙂