As we gather with our families for this holiday there are a few things that are important for us to keep in mind to make it a more joyous and meaningful occasion.

Here’s my list of the top five.

Number 1… Express a deep gratefulness for all we are fortunate enough to have; shelter, food, and love from people and/or pets. Remember, there are many families that have lost a lot due to the recent fires and other tragedies. Any way we can reach out or show our love to them during this time, virtually or in person would be kind and greatly appreciated. Donate anything you don’t need – it will be deeply loved.

Number 2… As we gather with family we have the choice on whether to engage in conversations that will bring out the best or the worst in people. Kindness and tolerance is needed. We all have our “triggers”. It’s unlikely during a few hour dinner you will change anyone’s minds on the many “hot topics” in our world these days. Before you meet with family – focus on what you DO love about the people you’re spending time with, their amazing traits and what you DO have in common rather than what separates you. I promise this will make for a MUCH happier meal.

Number 3… Decide to BE love and not fear. We all choose in each moment how we will react. Only when we are PRESENT and conscious can we control that decision. No numbing out as that will dull the senses and make it easier to react and not be present.Decide you will be the most loving version of yourself for all the people around you AND yourself.

Number 4…  When considering gift-giving, many people have quite enough “stuff”.  What is a thoughtful gift you can give or make that will enhance this person’s life?  What is something that will bring them peace? Make them take some time for themselves?  Enjoy themselves? Each of us deserves JOY and peace in our lives, but many feel guilty claiming that time and energy.  If your gift promotes peace for them in some way – you are handing them that gift. Examples: get certificates for services that help them in some way; a gift certificate for a music service; ebooks or something they will get to select and enjoy; or perhaps even a gift certificate to an online learning center so they can begin to take a class in something they always wanted. If this is outside your budget, even giving some amount towards it or getting together a group and going in on something is a wonderful way of showing the person you care and have thought about them and there is no greater gift.

Number 5… During your visit, do something FUN! Board games and family games (like charades) can bring you all together to a joyful space filled with smiling, laughing, gratitude, and happiness. We can all use more of it! Be the one that brings a game to the table and encourages this connection!

I’m wishing you all a very happy holiday. Gratitude and love are conscious choices – you have the power not only to feel that in yourself but to spiral that out into the world. Sending lots of love your way. I am grateful for each and every one of you in my life! ?

Love & blessings,
Jenny